Blog Articles

How can I get her to want me more?

That's one of the most common questions I get as a sex and relationship coach. I recommend approaching the question by looking at the underlying issues. Is she anxious, agitated, insecure, and “testing” you regularly? She could need more SAFETY in the relationship. Or...

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You snooze, you lose: Start talking after sex!

You know the stereotypical scenario where, after ejaculating, the man rolls over and falls asleep? If you’re saying, “Yep, that’s me,” I say to you, “Dude! Abandon your Neanderthal ways and join the rest of us guys in the 21st century.” It’s not cool to silently sack...

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Turn her on with your voice

Picture a rock star on stage. Have you ever noticed how women cry, scream, and appear to have an orgasm just from watching them? That’s because women are wired to respond to genuine passion in a man’s voice.   When your voice is infused with emotion, turn-on,...

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Touch Her Right (Before Someone Else Does!)

When I was in college, a female friend of mine would always gush about how this one particular guy would touch her when they said hello. Honestly, I just didn’t get it at the time. (I didn’t get A LOT of things at that time!) I mostly remember feeling jealous of him....

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The three fastest ways to kill your sex life

My brother taught me how chess pieces moved when I was 7 years old, and I played chess games by trial and error until I was 18. A that point, a really good player took me under his wing and spent time pointing out my bad habits: For instance, I was exposing my queen...

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Take her on the ultimate drive—in bed!

Let’s say that you’re taking your dream woman on a drive. You get into your old minivan, go a few miles and then drop her back off at home. Not the most memorable date. Now imagine you take your woman on a drive in your 700 horsepower Ferrari through rolling green...

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Sexual Interruptors

I’m walking down the street with my woman on a warm summer day. As we approach an intersection, a car with its windows rolled down comes to a stop at the light close to us. A romantic soul song from the 70’s plays on that car’s stereo. Without missing a beat, I slide...

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Making a Pleasure List

The Pleasure List. Learning to give to yourself first is an essential component to recovering your "pleasure body" and creating new neural pathways of good sensation. As a way of supporting that recovery, I want to encourage you, right now, to create a “Pleasure List”...

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Listen: In case you haven’t heard? Sound is important.

One thing that most men don’t realize is this: The quality of sound impacts a woman’s ability to relax and fully open sexually. Imagine if you were making love to your woman and your bedroom was right next to a construction site. And what you heard was that beeping,...

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